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Hold Yourself Accountable

Let's face it. If you are getting divorced or are already divorced you have, in essence, already broken a big promise to your kids. Sometimes promises have to be broken, but they should be kept most of the time when you make a promise to your children. If you've had to break a promise to your children, you now probably have an issue with trust. When someone's world is shaken so much - and divorce does do that shaking - it's hard figure out what is real and what isn't.

It's also hard to figure out who is real and who isn't. What I mean by that is that your kids must be able to trust you at all times; but the divorce had put you into a fragile state right now and yet, you are still responsible to be there for your children. They should always come first, but especially now that your promise of a 'two-parent' life has been broken.

You can regain their trust in this way: if you tell your children that you will do something, do it! It doesn't matter how small you think it is. If you tell them that you will make it to their soccer game, then make it to the soccer game. If you promise them a movie, rent one for them. If you tell them you won't yell so much, then don't yell so much. You get the idea. No parent is perfect, but the key element to your children's happiness is that they must be able to trust you.

Keep their secrets. You can help them to see that they can come to you with any problem and not find harsh judgment. If they want to talk about your ex, let them. The ex you now are angry with is always going to be their mommy or daddy. So no matter how awful you think he/she is, your kids won't see it the way you do.

They need to love them. They need to know that both of you love them. If they want to go see your ex, don't make it hard or make them feel bad about it.

(by all means, use your wisdom for an unsafe situation and tell your kids as much of your reasons as they can bear.).) So, although you're divorced, make every effort to hold yourself accountable in all situations. Keep all of the promises you make to them. If you can't keep them, then don't make the promise.

Learn not to share your every thought out loud. It may be your life goal to make sure your children don't turn out like your ex, but don't tell them that all time. Be the example. Kids won't simply do what you instruct them to do.

" Show them how to live. Show them how to love. Show them how to trust. They will learn all of these things, good or bad, from watching you.

After all is said and done, if you hold your Self accountable, you'll get one surprise benefit: you won't have to endure yet another divorce!.

Len Stauffenger's parents taught him life's simple wisdom. As a divorced dad, he wanted to share that simple wisdom with his girls. "Getting Over It: Wisdom for Divorced Parents," his book, is the solution. Len is an author, a Success Coach and an Attorney. http://www.wisdomfordivorcedparents.com



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